F is for Fear Series…
F is for Fear Series…
“Fear Not it’s Only a Shadow!”
Think about a time when fear tiptoed into your life and made you second-guess something you already made up in your mind to do. At first you were excited about doing it and you even made preparations to make a move, when all of a sudden doubt kicked and it made you too fearful to go any further. Whenever we do something new in life, we are entering into an unfamiliar place. However, we must be determined to go beyond what we can see and discover what the path of life has for us. Fear is a natural response when you enter into unknown territory, but the only way to overcome it is to step away from what may seem scary and conquer it once and for all. If you confront fear it wont keep bothering you and following you around like a shadow.
Developing strategies and tools to help you cope with your fear of losing, the fear of being disappointed, the fear of being alone, the fear of being rejected, the fear of failing is the only way you will ever overcome. You must make up in your mind you wont let it hinder you any longer. Strategies such as, considering the bigger picture instead of constantly reminding yourself about the horrifying details that lead up to you being fearful will help you overcome. Your life is like a movie, its full of suspense, it has a climax and an ending. There will be times you are fearful, then there may be times when you will show that you are courageous; however the end of your movie called” life” should consists of you conquering fear and showing great strength. The bigger picture will display your movie and its feature is where you are going. What makes the story are the details, however thinking about where you are going should motivate you to overlook fear. Instead of constantly reminding yourself of past failures and rejections replace those thoughts with memories of you defeating fear. The best way to overcome fear is to face it and to let it know it can no longer scare you; tell it that you have found peace in knowing that you are no longer afraid but instead you are strong and confident in yourself. Fear is only a shadow, it cannot harm you always remember that when it tries to hinder you from doing anything.
Stop beating yourself up about the past and instead use that energy to plan your journey to success, in the end it will be worth it because it will lead you to where you desire to be in life.
by Sakinah Salley, BA, CPC, CWC
Available for life coaching sessions. Contact at CoachSakinah@gmail.com